Pulling her husband’s heart calmly
How could a man who was careful enough to buy a silk scarf for a woman betray?
I’m not a man who buys things for women. The only thing I insist on is to buy a scarf for Li Fen every time I go on a business trip. Our marriage age is almost ten years.Cabinets of all kinds.
I remember traveling to Hangzhou for the first time after my wedding. I bought a small red silk scarf for Li Fen. It cost less than ten yuan. This is the first time I bought a gift for Li Fen.Extraordinarily moved, he put a beautiful knot on the little silk scarf and would never take it off again.
After marriage, the enthusiasm of men will decrease and shift, and this change is even scary to me.
In fact, marriage habits have not changed. Every time I travel to buy a scarf for Li Fen, her satisfied expression becomes my peace of mind, but I never appreciate her passion. My eyes have shifted to other women.
That is Ding Lei, a female officer of the brother unit I know. She and his wife are two types of people. They are passionate, smiles and flowers, and the dimples make men ecstatic. It ‘s so overwhelming for a man with an enlarged middle age.The ground was fascinated.
That day because of work, she went home very late. I drove her. She sat beside me along the way. She didn’t say a word, but she turned her back and smiled at me from time to time.Make me obsessed.
I started to use the excuse to work late and return home late. For one or two days, Li Fen didn’t complain at all. She always trusted me because she stubbornly thought that a man who could be careful enough to buy a silk scarf for a woman could betray him?
I bought two scarves on the second day of the Mid-Autumn Festival, and I went to Kunming for a business trip. Occasionally I passed by a small stall and saw a long batik scarf. The pattern of the sea blue print was very chic. I did n’t hesitateI was going to pay for it, but my hand stopped suddenly. To whom?
Theoretically, it should be given to the lover, because at that time we were like paint, but my habit and guilt made me buy it for my wife. I bought two of them badly, and took it out when I went home. The wife naturally got the treasure.Wrap around and look in front of the mirror.
However, Ding Lei didn’t feel very surprised. She is a modern woman, but it just obstructs my feelings. The coping ability lies in two sentences. Of course, I am a kind of loss because I was emotionally biased at that time.
As I returned late more and more, Li Fen already felt, but at least her cultivation made her invisible.
It was just a light sentence when I combed my hair in the mirror in the morning: “You didn’t do this before, but I didn’t expect to be particular about it now.
“It’s like talking to me and joking.
Ding Lei and I continued our affair.
I didn’t expect Ding Lei to go to Li Fen. Ding Lei’s personality was very modern and she dared to act. She said that she wanted to show up long ago, but I was dragging on. I was not responsible for both women.
I can never imagine the scene where these two women meet and I do n’t know what they talked about at the time, and Li Fen ‘s only requirement for Ding Lei is not to let me know that she came to me, and this is what Ding Lei wants to sayof.
That night Li Fen cried all night at his girlfriend’s house.
This was what I knew later.
Every two days, she would change a silk scarf. I bought it for her five years ago. I do n’t remember from which day, Li Fen ‘s words were very few, and it was neither cold nor warm to me. At that time, I did n’t grind it.I remember that early in the morning she found the first silk scarf I gave her, accompanied by a beige long down jacket, that was our fiery newlywed, I said that I should treat my wife as a treasure in my palm, to accompanyShe was old, and my heart twitched a bit. I don’t know for almost ten years, and my wife’s scarf is still so well preserved.
Since that day, she has never stopped from work on time and asked her, she just said, “I have eaten with friends I have n’t seen in years. It ‘s been a long time. Old friends need to communicate. I have never heard of my girlfriend.Is it a band-aid?
“Every second, every two days, she will change a silk scarf. I bought it for her five years ago. When I asked her, she just said that the scarf at that time had emotional purity. One day when she came home, it was almost ten.Yes, I fell asleep early that day because I was a little sick. When my wife came back, I lost my temper and said that my husband was sick and she was still crazy.
She didn’t have any expression, just said that I went to normal university to study psychology. My girlfriend in college invited me to go with her. She said that only people can save themselves, and they will not panic when they encounter anything.Don’t you keep saying I’m vulnerable?
Her words made me speechless. At that time I thought she didn’t know about me and thought that she was purely whim and didn’t take it seriously.
Just every time when she goes out carefully in front of the scarf around the mirror, there will be some strange conditioned reflections in her heart. It seems to be going back in time. I can still recall the scene at that time: the green velvet scarfPopular, that time I went to Hunan for a business trip and bought it in a small town. It only cost five yuan. At that time, I remember when Li Fen wore a scarf on her head, I laughed at her like a Scottish shepherd. She was happy to let meI picked her up; the yellow silk scarf with flowers was bought for her on the anniversary of her wedding. On that day Li Fen realized that it was going to kebab with me. I remember that night it was very windy and sheThe silk scarf fluttered in the wind . Every time I went out, Li Fen’s scarf was pale, but still calm, and I started to feel more and more uneasy.
Ding Lei thought I should have argued with my wife long ago, seeing that I hadn’t been moving, I was impatient, and began to find excuses for my divorce.
We have more and more quarrels and I’m exhausted.
Once Ding Lei blurted out: This woman is really amazing, I said that she was so calm and peaceful?
I turned pale at once: “What do you say, you say it again.
“Ding Lei froze suddenly.” Sooner or later I have to know, is it so serious?
“I left Ding Lei and ran to the house. I didn’t expect to receive a call from Li Fen:” Let’s have a meal outside.
“I bought another rose-colored long silk scarf. Li Fen chose the place where we met. It was a dilapidated small telephone booth at that time, and now it has become a hot pot restaurant.
Li Fen said when he sat down and said, “It’s good here. I often come with friends during this time.
After a pause, Li Fen said, “If I don’t ask, when are you going to hide me?”
“I don’t have a word anymore, just bow my head and say so sorry.
Li Fen paused for a moment, as if trying to control her tears, but she was deceiving herself: “Actually, I am very distressed, but now I am much better, I am just escaping, I am afraid I ca n’t bear it myself, I want toI have enough tolerance to accept this. During this time, I went to find my past girlfriend every day, crying in front of me, and every day I would make myself very tired, practice aerobics, and take psychology training classes., Drinking tea for dinner, chatting with friends.
In fact, I found that I was quite good. I imagined that I had left you, and I learned to live on my own.
Actually, I did n’t make a noise. I did n’t have much cultivation. I just wanted to find a buffering opportunity for myself. During this time, I wore the scarf you sent me five years ago, and now 49 scarves are closed.Our story should end.It’s just that a man who is so delicate that he can send me a scarf is really reluctant to leave.
Li Fen said this with tears. This is the first time in this time that she shed tears on my face. My heart looks like a five-flavored bottle. Li Fen’s scarf is like a firework show in front of me.As time passed, my tears couldn’t be controlled and I said, “Li Fen, I’m sorry for you, can you forgive me?
“Li Fen shook his head:” Let’s arrange for each other to organize their feelings.
This way we will calm down a lot.
“Li Fen insisted on moving to an empty house of a friend. After Li Fen left, I found that I had no God, and I was restless all day. No one managed it, but I never had the idea of secret feelings again.When you leave, you will really be afraid, in fact, you can’t do without her.
Two months later, I ended all my relationship with Ding Lei. I went to buy a long rose scarf and dialed Li Fen’s mobile phone: “Can you still give me a lifetime of silk scarves, wait for usWhen I was old, I filled up a cupboard.
“Li Fen didn’t say anything, but I heard her sobbing clearly . After editing: How to deal with the marriage, remember a colleague once said:” I have to be nice to my wife, because we had a good life when we were just marriedVery bitter.
“I don’t know if it was intentional or unintentional. His wife always remembers those hard days.
I think the wife of a colleague must be a caring person.
Li Fen is also such a caring person. She used 49 silk scarves as an intermediary to review the past happy days and dragged her derailed husband back.
There are too many people who encounter marital changes, but very few people can handle problems like Li Fen.
It takes courage, wisdom, self-cultivation, and respect for others.
Li Fen did it, so she won calmly in this marriage chess.
We can imagine what kind of pain she experienced, which requires a lot of patience.
In the face of marital change, some people usually behave as follows: they are frightened, they are looking for life, then they fight hard, and they become enemies.
This seems to be a model for people who have experienced marriage changes in the past.
We hope to see more people like Li Fen who deal with marriage issues, so maybe many seemingly incurable marriages can be brought back to life.